Men vs Emotions

 

 

During the Man Myths Series © we discussed in detail that one of the many lies men believe about being “true men” is that showing emotion is weak or sissy-like.  But fortunately this topic is being brought into the light more.  Not just by us, but by other sources as well that are encouraging men to talk more openly about it.

However, recently someone wrote in to our blog, and asked us what the difference is then to showing emotion, and allowing emotions to run your life.  In other words, being more reactant than pro-active. 

Writer and blogger, Lexi Gunn, tells us in her own words what you may need to know about that difference.  

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The Difference Between the Ways Men Handle Their Emotions

 

Emotions affect men in different ways. In some cases, men find it very easy to deal with their feelings and use them to their advantage. However, other men allow their emotions to rule their worlds.  This affects relationships, as well as friendships. Here is everything you need to know about the differences between the way men deal with emotions.

 

Be Emotionally Available and Stable

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Those who handle their emotions are more stable in their lives. They can appreciate the good and the bad, and prevent their anger and hurt from fuelling their decisions. Women enjoy men who share their feelings. They feel like they can have conversations and a strong, loving relationship.

 

Being emotionally available does not mean being “feminine.” It is a common view that men should be self-reliant, and not show that they feel anything (good or bad). Those who handle their emotions well find that more opportunities open up to them, in relationships and within their lives. You could gain a promotion at work as you prove you can handle the stress and constructive criticism given on a daily basis.

 

Letting Emotions Rule Your Life

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When men let their emotions rule their lives, they act out their feelings. This is not always a positive thing. You could lash out in anger, or close yourself off after being hurt one too many times. This not only affects your ability to have a loving and trusting relationship, but also stops you from developing friendships.

 

Men who cannot handle their emotions often get themselves in trouble, and even in legal trouble. Your anger can cause you to hit someone or break something of value to someone else. You could find yourself being sued or arrested for the damages caused. If you don’t do something illegal, you can shut people out by working long hours.

 

Some men turn to drugs and alcohol to try and deal with their emotions. Not only can this lead to illegal behaviour, but it can also be dangerous to the health.

 

You can either handle your emotions or let them run the way you live your lives. The latter can be extremely destructive, and is worth getting out of right now. Give yourself the future and the relationships you deserve.

 

Written by:

Lexi Gunn

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  2. Ann Abbitz says:

    I’ve always considered myself lucky because I was raised by – in my opinion, anyway – the greatest dad of all time. My dad was a very emotional man, and it just never seemed weird to me that he cared (and showed that care) for all of us so much. When I hear men & women both belittle men for showing emotion, it just makes me sick. Should you be ruled by emotion? No. Should you become a sobbing mess every time something goes wrong? No. But, you should certainly have no shame in caring for others, and showing that care! You never know exactly who you’re touching & who’s day you’re making better.

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